The modern world is an expensive place, where most households
require two incomes to purchase even the most modest of dwellings.
Couple this fact with the progress women have made in the workplace
since Eisenhower was president and you’ve got a perfect cocktail for a
potentially sour brew known as long-distance relationships, which are brought on by career moves that often mean a change of address.
Careers can pull anyone across the country provided the opportunity is
grand enough. You’ll need to look inside yourself and be sure that
you’re ready to deal with this level of commitment. If you’ve been
tempted to stray while she was still living in town, chances are you’re
not ready. However, if you can’t see yourself with anyone but her, there
are a host of factors to consider when embarking upon long-distance
relationships.
Agree on an end
Before you decide to jump headfirst into long-distance relationships, you should first agree on an end goal with your partner -- a specific time, be it six months or a year, when the separation is going to end. You can reunite, she can move home, you can follow or you can call it quits. There has to be an agreed upon goal to look forward to when you first embark upon long-distance relationships. Otherwise, you may end up stringing along the status quo indefinitely, which breeds a particularly robust strain of frustration.Be realistic in your assessment of this relationship timetable. Make sure to leave enough time to accomplish the goals that forced the separation in the first place. Trying to rush through an experience, even for a relationship, is a good way to build up unhealthy levels of stress.
Schedule communication
The quality and quantity of communication with your woman will need to increase substantially when you embark on long-distance relationships. Be prepared for this increase in verbal Olympics. Make sure your phone bill is ready as well by switching to a new cell phone plan with unlimited long distance or make sure your landline carrier is providing the best rates. You will need to be on the same page with your girl as far as frequency goes; will you speak three times a week or once a day? If you’re not on the same page, one party will feel slighted and an insurmountable rift will begin to develop between the two of you that will make the physical distance seem minuscule.During long-distance relationships you'll want to go ahead and physically schedule communication time on your calendar. Your relationship is certainly as important as any other meeting you may have written down. If you have to miss a “date,” be sure to let her know just as you would any business contact. Bridges are especially easy to burn from so far away. Try closing the gap with video chat, such as Skype.com or TokBox.com.
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