Most men who are NFL fans are familiar with this scenario.* You
become involved with a woman who’s relieved to finally meet a bright and
sensitive guy (assuming you are one). Then she finds out the awful
truth: you’re an NFL fan.
But how could he? she wonders. He not only loves the arts, he’s socially conscious. When she tries to reconcile his opposition to our recent wars with the fervor with which he watches this violent sport, her cognitive dissonance gets the better of her. (The sexes, of course, could be reversed, or the same.)
She resolves to accept the situation, but discovers that she can’t handle the life of a football widow. It’s not long before she’s pressuring you to go out during game-time.
First question: How many games a year, if any, do you give up for her? Incidentally, the answer “Every situation is different” doesn’t count.
Second question: If she decides “I didn’t sign on for this” and insists that you give up all or more of football than you’re willing (I know: this may be a function of a relationship already in trouble), which would you choose: football — or your wife or girlfriend?
*Since I don’t follow college football, I can’t speak to the stresses that watching it places on a relationship.
But how could he? she wonders. He not only loves the arts, he’s socially conscious. When she tries to reconcile his opposition to our recent wars with the fervor with which he watches this violent sport, her cognitive dissonance gets the better of her. (The sexes, of course, could be reversed, or the same.)
She resolves to accept the situation, but discovers that she can’t handle the life of a football widow. It’s not long before she’s pressuring you to go out during game-time.
First question: How many games a year, if any, do you give up for her? Incidentally, the answer “Every situation is different” doesn’t count.
Second question: If she decides “I didn’t sign on for this” and insists that you give up all or more of football than you’re willing (I know: this may be a function of a relationship already in trouble), which would you choose: football — or your wife or girlfriend?
*Since I don’t follow college football, I can’t speak to the stresses that watching it places on a relationship.
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